life, love and hair tips

long hair vs healthy hair

i constantly see girls fanning over long hair. i used to be one of them. when I was younger my hair was really long and healthy, so as I got older after the eczema kicked in, I just wanted my long hair back. I quickly understood that long hair was a bonus, but healthy hair was the goal. You see, hair naturally grows. Everyone’s does. The way to see the growth is if you r hair is healthy and you have a high length retention rate. That means your shedding is to a minimum and you can see your hair growing after a few weeks. I want to discuss a little bit more when you need to start focusing on health instead of length.

  • Benefits of Healthy Hair
    • You will see a drastic change in your ability to hold a style
    • lots of compliments
    • it will grow super fast
      • when it grows it will look nice
  • Benefits of Long Hair
    • It’s long
    • can possibly be styled in cute styles (if it is damage free)
    • lots of compliments

As you can see by this short list, long hair really is just long. Long hair is often synonymous with beauty, but it’s not always beautiful. Tons of people have long hair whose hair looks a hot mess. Tons of people have short, healthy hair cuts. Short is a good thing as long as it’s healthy. I think a short bob or pixie cut is adorable, and can allow your hair to grow back healthier than ever. That’s what happened to my mom. Her hair used to be really short (she had it shaved short for a portion of my childhood, then she grew it out, then she got a bob, and now it’s longer). After her bob, her hair grew back super healthy and is super cute. Cuts are a good thing! Just like trims are (one of the most important things you can do is get trims regularly it will change your hair for the better).

At the end of the day, it’s just hair. Just like you would for your body, mind and spirit, focus on your (hair) health!

releasing

So it has recently come up that I have not released some things as completely as I needed to. This is a natural process- sometimes you’re just not as “over” things as you try to make yourself believe. I believe it is a coping mechanism- we think we are over something because we don’t want to feel our emotions. Well the process of not letting this emotions negatively affects your health. For me, when this happens my eczema flares up on my hands. I first started getting eczema on my hands in 11th grade, and it’s really been a battle. Recently, my hands were almost clear. So the flare up was noticeable and honestly- heartbreaking. I thought I was past this. But apparently I’m not. I have come to understand that when you still talk about things on a normal basis and still feel those same emotions- that means your not over it. I think I try to convince myself that I am to allow that to become my reality. My reality is I’m healing. I was hurt, and I’m healing. Healing is a process and it takes time. So as I’m in this healing process, I’m going to just let go and all the Universe to have complete control. I know that I will heal, and I know that you will too. The first step is just releasing. Good luck.

1 year down

My hair growth journey has been interesting. Unlike a lot of people, I don’t have a cool story about why I went natural. I went natural because I didn’t have an option. I was 15, my hair was falling out, I was constantly in and out of the dermatologist trying to help my ezcema. See as a baby I had cradle cap, which apparently comes back as hormonesnchange. I also had eczema in my scalp, which lead to extreme itchy, which is why my hair was falling out. I almost even had a bald spot from scratching my hair. My dermatologist told me I had to start washing my hair every week (at this point I was getting my hair done every two weeks), so that my hair would continue growing. I was on a peak of my journey, my hair was growing, but my scalp was still itchy. I was put on an antihistamine and given shots in my scalp. Eventually the itching stopped. But I still had to wash my hair every week so I continued being natural on my off weeks. I loved it. After a while I didn’t even want to get my hair done anymore. That eventually turned into my hair journey. I’ve technically been natural all my life (no perm, no heat damage, etc) but wearing my hair curly was different. I learned as much as I could on black hair, and applied it. Having this blog helped, it made me accountable- I wanted to help people so I stayed up to date on hair techniques. My hair has grown tremendously in a year. Here’s a picture of my hair May 13th, 2016.

(me and my best friend on her prom day)

then this was May 10th, 2017


It took a lot of work, time, money and efforts to get my hair to the state it’s at now. I hope this blog post lets you know that you can do it. No matter your hair type, financial situation, you can do this. good luck!

que será, será 

as we welcome into the new month, I just wanted to share some insight. The phrase que será, será is Spanish, which translates as what will be, will be. This motto is extremely important to me. At this point in my life I’m working on truly releasing the need to control. I’ve begun to understand that I like to control things so that I am sure that the outcome will result in my happiness and the happiness of others. My happiness is always the most important to me, but I do always try to make decisions so other people are happy along with me. I’m learning to go with the flow. And really just enjoying life. I used to be so obsessed with time. I never felt like I had enough. During my retirement (lol it’s an inside joke in reference to the time I’ve been out of school- I am yet to find a job and I leave for Ecuador next month), I’ve learned that I have all of the time I need. Enjoy life. Just know that you have enough time and that the need to control can be easily released. All is well. Remember that. 

me

I haven’t been blogging so much lately. And it’s not because I’ve been busy, because I have somewhat but I haven’t at the same time. I’m still currently searching for a job and in the mean time I’ve been taking a lot of time to take care of myself. This includes frequent trips to yoga and spending time with my family and friends. Last weekend, I was in Atlanta. My best friend invited me to go with her family to her cousin’s graduation from Spelman College. I was really excited to go for a whole bunch of different reasons. One of which was that Spelman is my dream school. Though I believe that Michigan is the perfect place for me to be right now. I think that in another life, Spelman would’ve been perfect for me. I was very excited to go. Overall, the trip was perfect. I also was glad I got to go because I’ve been thinking a lot about moving to Atlanta (which I also have a whole bunch of reasons for that) and this trip just confirmed that I really like it there and could see myself moving down there. It made me feel relaxed and I liked that. I like being able to just go with the flow and see what happens. It’s part of my journey- learning to release the need to control. I often like to control things because I have this vision that if I am in control I know I’ll be happy. But I’m learning to let go, and trust in the process. I understand that all will work out the way it is supposed to. I’m hoping that the way it’s supposed to includes a job, because I’m getting a little bored. We’ll see what happens. But for right now I’m just enjoying my space, my life and being happy.

i’m proud of myself 

pride is an emotion I don’t feel very often. Many other people, especially my family, are proud of me, but I rarely feel proud of myself. for my whole life i’ve pushed myself to be the best I can be. I strived for the highest GPA, to be talented in *insert latest passion*, and to be a better person. About a year ago, I started practicing yoga faithfully. I went to my first yoga class in middle school- it was a kids class at the studio my mother works at. The class was super small- my sister and I and two other girls (who I believe were also sisters). The class never got renewed, but I loved going. I always wanted to go with my mother but I was too young to attend the adults class. Last year, my mom bought me yoga passes for the studio she works at. I was going through a rough time in my life- one of the most important relationships in my life seemed to be crumpling apart (update- we were able to grow and mature and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been). So I turned to yoga. I got into crystals, deeper into meditation and focused on myself. I started off pretty inflexible. Now I can easily hold poses like pigeon for two minutes, I can stay up for airplane and my child’s pose is deeper than ever. Whenever I do yoga, I have the same intention- to be the best yogi I can be. I live for the hard classes, where I’m unsure if I can keep going, cause when I do, I feel like I’m on top of the world. Everything I do is a reflection of how much I’ve grown. It makes me so happy. I feel like I can do anything I set my mind to. Yoga has helped me learn to love myself, just a little bit more. Right now, I’m going to yoga multiple times a week at Yoga Shelter (which is not the studio my mom works at but I love it). I’m trying to bring my loves to class with me, so wish me luck!!