year 20

On December 24th, I turned 21 years old. 20 was a challenging year. There was change after change, I had the opportunity to join Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Inc. Beta Eta Chapter, and overall I grew as a woman. So there are a few things I want to share.

  • Be your authentic self

This year, I embraced my authentic self. One of the ways I did this was by choosing to do what I wanted. The decisions I made were based on my happiness and desires. While I was conscious of others, I knew I needed to do what I needed to do for me. While it was difficult, it was well worth it. I also decided that I was going to be open with my bisexuality. By doing this, I feel like I can be my real self.

  • Love unconditionally

First and foremost, it is important to love yourself unconditionally. That means accepting good and bad days, and picking yourself up. It also means loving others unconditionally. I was listening to a Red Table Talk with Jada Pinkett Smith and the subject was unconditional love and her mother mentioned if you love someone unconditionally you’re not constantly trying to change them. It really stuck with me- love people for themselves.

  • Be okay with change

When I was younger my mother had me read the book Who Moved My Cheese. The book was centered around the fact that change is essential for survival. So ask yourself- are you ready to change to survive? The world is changing and we must change and grow with it.

  • Take care of yourself

For me taking care of myself has included yoga and meditation. I also have started to incorporate more frequent reiki treatments and massages, as ways to heal my body and my energy. This year one of my resolutions includes trying hot yoga, aerial yoga and starting to exercise more.

And most importantly, be compassionate, loving and kind. That’s my mantra for year 21.

open to love

A lot of what I talk about on my blog is about self love. A huge part of self love is being open to love. I recently finished the Ebook Lost in Us by Layla Hagen. This book was free on iBooks and I really liked it. One of the main points in the book was to discuss how you have to release your past and be open to loving. Though people may love themselves, you have to be open to receiving love (and feeling that you deserve to be loved). One of the reasons I want to teach is to teach children that they deserve to be loved. Honestly everyone deserves to be loved. Sometimes people just forget that they too deserve love. You deserve an unconditional love, that you must be able to give yourself (first and foremost) and give to others. Recently, my sister and I realized that we love more unconditionally in comparison to others (how they love us back). Sometimes this happens because people don’t know how to love, or they just aren’t open to receiving unconditional love. This doesn’t mean that you’re supposed to stop loving other unconditionally. This just means that you need to chose wisely on who you are loving. Not everyone deserves your unconditional love. Your love is precious. You’re precious. So you deserve to be loved and love others. Just remember that you have to open your heart and enjoy life!