how i’m learning to love myself

Learning to love myself, and putting myself first, is a journey I have been on for a while. While I don’t know how to describe this journey, i want to give some tips i’ve done.


  • Take time to learn your likes- I’m really excited to get to know more of what I like and don’t like. I’m learning a lot of this from self reflection of my relationships with other people. There are various aspects of different relationships that i like a lot and would like to manifest in my life.
  • Try new things- i’ve recently decided to work on making my outside match my inside. that means dressing the way i want to dress. but also doing actions that reflect the love i want to give. This means being empathetic towards myself and others.
  • Being more open- this is something i’ve decided to start doing more. i want to be my authentic self. we often are afraid of the reactions of others with our thoughts. but i’m sure if if we speak from a place of love, our intention will always come through.


It’s really important to be happy. I don’t think I can stress that enough. Stress can bring only negative things into your life, such as illness and hair loss. You want to bring positive things like healthiness, good communication, happiness and love into your life. But like I’ve said before you have to open your heart to get to that point. It’s not always “easy” to change your patterns but I truly believe it can be done. I’ve discussed the idea that people can change with my younger sister. My argument basically was that people can change if they want to. Experiences change people and can help mold them into the best version of themselves. I know that people can change because I’ve changed. I’ve gotten to a point in my life where I put myself and my feelings first. Yes I still try to be considerate of others feelings but I put mine first. I just know that I will love myself the most out of everyone. One of my best friends sent me the picture attached (the one of Kanye West), with the caption “This is you”. It’s true. I know that I have to love myself because it’s the first step. It’s the first step to my journey in life. It’s everyone’s first step. You truly start living when you care about yourself the most. Because let’s all be real no one will care about you like you care about you. Ever. It’s not possible to replicate or compare how you care about yourself if you really do. You have to truly take care of yourself and love yourself so that eventually happiness will enter your life. Here’s my strategy: I only have good days. I might have a part of the day that’s bad, like I might have a rough morning, but I always have a good day. Each day is experience to be the best version of yourself possible. Every minute is. Every second. Do what you have to do today. Waiting until Monday to start something new isn’t going to help anything. Do it today. Do it now. Each day is a new beginning. Open your heart and see what the universe gives you. Love attracts love. Real attracts real. Keep that in mind  



It’s always important to test yourself and try new things. Now I don’t mean compromising your morals to try something new, I just mean trying something to have a new experience. Life is nothing but lessons and experiences to help you grow and develop as a person. I’m trying tennis as my something new. I want to do a sport to start exercising more and I think it’ll be healthy and fun for me. It’s good to try new things. You want to love yourself the most. It’s really important. I’m not saying it’s easy to cope with change I’m saying it’s necessary. It’s necessary to move forward and to just accept everything as it is. As far as relationships go just go with the flow. With time everything will be fine and revealed. Everything ends when it’s supposed to, and everything begins when it’s supposed to. It’s not coincidences, or anything of that nature. It’s all going to be okay in the end and if it’s not okay it’s not the end. You need to just keep calm and be at peace with yourself. You have to learn to be comfortable with yourself and stay happy. You must move on from bad situations and releasing the situation and thanking the universe for the experience, while learning from the situation. You have to take everything as a lesson and know that you must love yourself the most. It’s important. You have to open your heart to love. Open your mind to learning. Once you get to that point, you will attract positive people and positive experiences and love to yourself. You deserve to find your ideal person and be happy. By staying with someone who’s not good for you, you are making it harder on yourself in the long run. I’m making it sound easy because it’s just that simple. Yes it hurts a lot at first but I’m a witness that it’s fine. It’s all really going to be okay, because I’m okay. I’m actually better than okay, I’m great. I’m finally happy. It’s great. That whole situation put me out of my comfort zone because he was the first boy I have ever been with, and I learned a lot. Relationships are not accidents, you just have to learn from them. Also learn to live regret-free. Learn to accept what has happened and be at peace with it. Personally what I do is I just reflect on how I felt at the time, so no matter what happens I was doing what I wanted at the time. It’s okay to not want the same thing anymore. I just believe that you have to communicate it. Communication is very important in everything relationship. In order to have the best communication, you have to be vulnerable. You have to be really open and put your pride aside to communicate effectively. You also have to learn to trust others. It’s as easy as you want it to be. I challenge you to communicate more effectively and to try something new. Move out of your comfort zone. Start growing. Change is inevitable.