sex

Purity

sex is not a topic of discussion for my blog. I just wanted to touch on something that I think is really important. The most important relationship you have in live is with yourself. With this in mind it is important to understand what types of relationships you want to have. You have the right to have whatever type of relationship you want. The main thing is that the relationship is healthy, loving and honest. Normally when people talk about virginity and the “importance” of purity, it is to shame women. Besides the fact that the concept of virginity is made up (because a hymen can break without sex), humans are naturally sexual beings. I’m saying all of this to say- do what makes you happy. life is about being happy and doing things that make you happy. for some that means having sex, some that doesn’t, some want to wait until marriage. Whatever makes you happy is the most important thing. No one has the right to tell you how to live your life or what you should do with your body. it’s your choice and your life. just remember to love yourself the most and make smart decisions. if you want to be “pure”, go ahead. if you don’t, then go ahead. another important thing to think about is judging others. everyone is on a different life path, to learn lessons that they need to learn. With this being said, no one has any right to judge anyone. everything in life happens for a reason. remember that life is meant to be fun and to do things that make you happy. it’s your body- make your decisions based off of your desires! treat yourself. you deserve it!

This is not my typical blog post, but I just saw the picture below and it sparked my interest. I saw it and I really started thinking about society and how everything works. Women in society have been degraded for generations, from the beginning of time. For goodness gracious, Eve is blamed for taking the temptation and “making” Adam do the same, in the Bible! Women are used as sexual objects and prizes for men, and it’s unacceptable. What I’ve never seemed to understand is how men degraded “their” woman. It’s mind boggling. Women are gifts, and should be treated as such. When I first read this, I started thinking about how true it is. And how men are viewed as “players” when they are able to maintain relations (sexual and non-sexual) with multiple women at one time, but if a women does the same she’s labelled as a whore. By definition a whore is a prostitute, someone who is selling their body for sex and is able to be male and female (people often forget that part too). The whole idea that one are objects not only reflects the bigotry of the patriarchical society. I’m saying all of this to say, that it’s time for a change. The change has been stimulating for a long time, but it’s finally time for an enlightenment, a second revolution (the first gave women rights). This second revolution will even the wages for women (don’t even get me started on that) and allow us to receive the respect we so rightfully deserve. Another thing about respect is that it shouldn’t be an option. I’ve never viewed it as an option, because I will be respected. In turn, I will respect you, as a person and your opinion (and I will respectfully voice mine). Women especially have to have self-respect, due to the society present today. Men have been indirectly taught by their fathers and other males that females don’t deserve respect and are objects. Women learn that they have to respect themselves to not be taken advantage of (funny right? Women are taught to act differently so that men treat them the way they should be treated). Women are taught that virginity means everything and to males it means nothing, and that you should lose it as fast as possible. The views that society has painted are not only crazy but unrealistic. But back to the picture, I like the picture because it not only makes you think but you can really understand how realistic it is. Everyone knows that guys brag about sex, so much so many young ladies are scared to lose their virginity due to fear of humiliation or being “exposed”. It’s just crazy to me, and then people react to it and say “well she shouldn’t have been doing that”. Maybe, but he doesn’t have been doing that either. So next time someone says a sexist remark like that, call them out on it. Fight the (wo)man who is holding you down! Also, one thing I hate is dress codes. I’m talking about not allowing women to wear shorts or tank tops because it’s “distracting”. I had this big argument on the last week of junior year with my art class because they were sending girls out for wearing crop tops! I was outraged because it’s so sexist. First off it’s their body, and they should be allowed to dress it however they please. Also, I am seventeen years old, and if you are sexualizing me YOU ARE THE PROBLEM. That’s what people don’t get, at school you should feel safe and comfortable, not afraid of being sexualized. I blame the parents and society. You should have been taught to respect, but it’s never too late to learn. Treat others the way you want to be treated! Stay respectful!

Bruce Jenner

I know all the blogs will be talking about Bruce after his interview with Diane Sawyer last night. I watched the whole interview with my sister and I must say it was amazing. At first I had my biases, thinking that he was selfish because he knew and he got married and lied to his ex-wives and everything. I also felt like he was selfish for lying to his children. After watching, I completely support his movement. Because first off he said that he’s only ever been attracted to women (though he mentioned being asexual at the end as far as his current sexuality), so the attraction was real and that all of his wives knew (they all saw him cross-dressing). In addition to that he was caught by his children cross dressing. I think the whole situation wasn’t ideal for him, because he wasn’t being honest with himself and it really hurt him. So I’m saying all this to say that Bruce Jenner has my support. Because he grew up in an age where he would’ve been looked down upon heavily. In today’s time it’s the most accepting than it’s ever been (we still have leaps and bounds to go but it takes time). Just be honest with yourself. Stay true to your heart and stay true to yourself. If you feel a certain way then act on it, express it (as long as it’s nonharming to you or others). So as the interview went on, ABC did a great job educating the community about the difference between sex and gender and gender-identity, et cetera. In my English class (my teacher is open minded lol), we talked about gender identity because one of the girls in my class is asexual and doesn’t want to be identified as a female (I’m only using the she pronoun because I don’t want to name names). The class was pretty accepting of it and I definefetly listened with open ears. I knew she was asexual because we talked about it in like Decemeber, so it was just more or less like a continuing conversation. I just think that everyone has an inner desire to be accepted and loved and the way to be loved is to love yourself and love others. Back to the interview, one thing they mentioned was children saying that they are transgender. I discussed it with my sister and we both had the same mindset on it. We said that if our children wanted to cross dress that’d be perfectly fine, but we wouldn’t allow the actual surgery until they’re old enough to pay for it and sign for it themselves. I said this because that’s a life altering decision and I would want to make sure my child is sure about it, because there is no going back. One other thing I’d like to mention is the Wendy Willaims clip that’s been circulating on Twitter (I have the link to the full episode below). I get how it’s offensive because Bruce just came out the whole world, but he does need to be a parent. Bruce needs to work on himself but also help Kylie. His responsibilities as a parent aren’t going anywhere because he’s going to have a sex change that he wants and can pay for. Part of me is like no that’s so rude she shouldn’t have said that, but it’s like at the same time it’s Wendy Williams she says whatever she wants and she had a point. I say all this to say,I believe that everyone should be themselves and love themselves the most. I found the following picture on Twitter and I really felt it went with all of this! Stay open minded. You learn something new everyday. http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=HxphbncPzvI