the way you view the world is through your own eyes. as you age, you are taught to try to view the world from other perspectives, or through the eyes of others. sometimes, depending on the situation, it may be difficult, but with practice I believe it get easier. today i’d like to discuss my perspective on a situation that’s a little close to home for me right now- what to do after a breakup.
when I use the term breakup, I am referring to an end of a relationship, whether it was a friendship, romantic relationship or anything in between.
breakups can be difficult. but when others around you breakup, it can leave you in a difficult position. often, people feel that they have to chose one side or the other. honestly, i don’t think it’s possible to avoid choosing a side. within the breakup, you were closer to one of the people, you had to have been. and i think you just will have to examine the whole situation. my advice is to look at the whole situation- look at the actions that took place. often people say “well they didn’t do that to me.” though this is true, it is important to remember that actions reflect values and morals. so though they may not have done it to you, they think it’s acceptable to do to others, which means they may do it to you. i think the best idea is to use this as an opportunity to understand people and their personalities. if you don’t agree with the way one person treated the other, then siding is okay. it may be difficult to stay neutral, depending on the person. but it may be possible. as long as you understand what type of people both people are and then decide that you want to be friends with both people, then try. the best idea also is to talk to the people that broke up: be clear with your intentions. saying “look I’m going to hang out with “insert name”, because of “insert reason”” may be beneficial.
if someone does it to someone else, they may do it to you. make sure you’re hanging out with people whose morals are high and are nice people. part of being a nice person is actually being nice to people. remember that!