One thing I have never understood is why people shut others out. If you have someone who is supportive, loves you, cares about you and your well being, and on top of that is extremely attractive, why throw that away? Why would you ever decide that you don’t need their help? Ladies and gentlemen, the reason behind this is pride. The person doesn’t want help, they don’t feel like they need anyone, they believe they “got this”. Having their lives together is an accomplishment, but there is nothing wrong with asking for help. My advice to you is to just leave the other person alone. It’s way harder than I’m making it sound but you need to just let them be. You need to understand that you are learning from this experience. You are learning that you cannot help everyone, it’s impossible. I had to teach my two year old cousin, London that lesson because London is like me. I love to help. London saw that there was a situation going on which she did not agree with. London ran up to me, and told me what happened (London is extremely intelligent). I responded to her, saying,  “London you can’t control people, you just have to let them do what they want.” Of course she looked at me with a surprised face, but she’s going to learn the lesson early: not everyone wants to be helped. One of my closest friends sent me the picture attached about ego, and I believe it perfectly fits what I am trying to say, though I would like to say that this issue applies to everyone. Pride is not a bad thing, everyone should be proud of who they are, what they do and what they have, but too much pride is toxic for any kind of relationship.


Loving Yourself


What is self-love? Well basically it is deciding that you are worthy of your own love. It’s the same way you decide if someone is worthy of your love, you look at how they treat you, how they act, what language they use, and how nice they are to your friends (family too). You have to treat yourself with the same respect you want someone else to treat you with. Personally, I know this is difficult, I’m very hard on myself when I make mistakes. But, I have decided that I need to treat myself the way I would expect someone else to treat me (actually I treat myself better). I decided I was worthy, of my own love. Self-love has a lot of parts, and one of them is being comfortable with your body. It doesn’t matter if you’d like to change parts of your body, you need to acknowledge that your body is perfect for you, at this time. Loving your body and your image is really important. You should respect your body, by being gentle towards it (treat yourself the way you want to be treated). Self-love also has to do with who you allow to hang out with you. Allowing someone your presence is a privilege, not a right. You have to decide whether the person is serious in continuing the relationship (not necessarily a romantic relationship, it could be, or just a friendship), and notice if they treat you the way you want to be treated. It’s easy to love someone who really isn’t good for you, and once you realize it, it is your responsibility to leave that person behind. Sometimes that act alone, is easier than others. You are worth more, you deserve the world, and you have to go get it for yourself. Love you for you.