friendship – Page 3 – mayah's site

Love

A lot of people are confused about what love is. I talk about it with my younger sister, and this is the definition of love I have. Love is unconditionally accepting, respecting and caring about someone. Everyone’s definition of love is different, but just know if it has conditions it’s not true. Love involves forgiveness, without them even having to apologize. My biggest example of who I love is my sister. Because I accept her for who she is (I think she’s great in all actuality), respect her, and care about her. These are things that will stay the same throughout our lives. But back to love. Love is something that is super important for everyone. Everyone craves love. Babies need the most love out of everyone, and this just shows how pure our desires are. The part of your brain that desires, is called your ID. This part develops along with your ego and super ego (your decision making brain parts, not to be confused with the ego). As we age, our IDs become more controlled, so we “need” less love. Really we still always need love. The first person you need love from is yourself. So once you get to the point where you love yourself, life becomes easier. On my phone I have a reminder set for everyday to go off at 12 in the afternoon that reads the following: “I am beautiful ❤️ (then underneath) Just remember you deserve the whole world 🌎”. I got the idea from Dove’s Twitter page, because one of the challenges was to set a reminder to say you’re beautiful everyday. So I decided to try it and I just kept it going. I challenge you all to do the same (it actually feels really nice to have the reminder). The first type of love is self love. Have a great day!

Social Group

I really think friends are important. For support, someone to talk to, et cetera. Who you choose to associate with outside of work or school says something about your personality. Friends are supposed to click; friends have stuff in common that makes your communication (somewhat) successful. School friends (and work friends) are what I like to call associates. You’re close to them somewhat, but not close enough to call when it’s 12 am and your “whole world” has come crashing down (and no these are not fun experiences per say but they are important). Friends are the ones you call when stuff goes wrong, right and just to check up on. You need to be a friend to have a friend. People get placed into your life, and (somewhat) you get to chose their place. The issue starts when they get out of there place, or start being sneaky or lying or just talking too much. Both of my closest friends, where both somewhat given to me. Just by coincidence, I “knew”both of them but we happened to start talking and now I have two of the most fabulous best friends. They are both going to be shocked I’m blogging about them, but I’m extremely grateful for both of them. Friends support you, love you for you and help you. And you are to reciprocate that. I know I haven’t always been the best of a friend, but I’m working on it. Conversations need to happen on what will make each friendship (relationship) better. There should be openness for discussions. If you can’t open up to your “best” friend, you need to reevaluate your relationship. I know that everyone needs a friend, so be a friend.