having space is something that has always been really important to me. growing up, i was always with my sister but we both had the space to be our own people. when i got to college, i struggled with maintaining my space. i was scared and alone, so i clung to others whom felt the same (to be frank it’s how all college freshman feel). Throughout this year, I’ve changed. I’ve grown more and more independent and have seen changes in the types of relationships I possess. I’ve realized that space is central for me. I need space to do my studying, meditation and yoga. I need space to breathe and destress. I need my space. But I have realized that by having this space, my friendships have completely changed. I don’t have any really close friends. By this I mean- I don’t have anyone I share everything with (or vice versa). I have friendships, where it’s good conversation and hanging out, but it’s nothing close. This is something I struggled with a lot. I mean everyone wants friends. But I never wanted friends bad enough to sacrifice my space. So it’s distanced relationships and I’m overall fine with that. I’m writing this post partially to get out thoughts that have been on my mind, but in part to discuss something that quiet frankly is taboo. It’s fine to not have a best friend. It’s fine to not have someone to always hang out with. It’s fine to be alone. It’s healthy to be alone.
as a mature, second-semester sophomore, I have three simple steps to make your freshman year super simple.
- Be yourself
you’re a great person. just be nice. be yourself. you got this. those that should be in your life will be drawn to you and will stay in your life. you need to understand that being yourself is the key to making friends- yes going to all of the events will help but you will only find true friendship when you’re being you. also, remember that friendships take time. remember how long it took you to call your bestie in high school your bestie? it took longer than a month. so keep that in mind!
- Stay calm
I have seen so many freshman look so nervous. just relax. you’re in a new space where you’re going to grow in ways you never thought you would. so just be open for love, growth, happiness and healthiness. you’re going to be just fine.
- Pay attention
Make sure you pay attention to your surroundings! this is a good rule to follow for general safety, but there could be some really cool events going on around you! so just pay attention!
Today I had my first day of college! I was so excited about it, and the inspirational messages from my family members just really reiterated how lucky I am to have been given such a supportive loving family. I went for a more professional/ cutesy look- I wore a black dress with a pair of leggings under and TOMS (just because I knew it would be cold in the classrooms. I’m taking four classes- Intensive Spanish (lecture and discussion), Topics in Music, UROP (undergraduate research opportunity program), and a writing seminar about Riots, Police, and Justice in the 1960s. I’m really excited to start this new chapter in my life. I’ve went to three of the four classes today, which all seemed interesting. I’m excited to go to my writing seminar tomorrow (which is my only Wednesday class- bonus it doesn’t start until 4). I’ve already gotten homework in my other three classes (I even went to the library today). Though today was really tiring (I even took a thirty minute nap), I feel like it was the start of my new journey. And a part of that journey was to change my blog link! It’s officially my blog now (like I don’t have the .wordpress.com anymore!). I did a couple changes to the theme to make it a little more me. I cannot wait to see what is in store for me and I’m so excited to be a freshman at THE University of Michigan! Go blue!
yesterday I officially moved in college. though this was something that I have been looking forward to since I was young, it was crazy that it actually happened. I basically packed up my whole life, taking four different suitcases (two of them very large), around ten boxes, a duffel bag, along with other bags, under bed storage, a tv and a drier I can sit under. Needless to say it took my family (my aunt, my mom, my sister and I) about four hours to unpack everything. My dad ended up coming to my dorm later in the day and he helped to set up too. So this was definitely a family affair. I am extremely excited to start my new life here at University of Michigan. I think that I will have a lot of fun and make new friends, while learning a lot about myself and different things that are important to me. I already have homework even though I don’t start classes until the sixth. Yesterday they had a lot of activities to do, but I just stayed with my family. I wanted to enjoy the day with them and I did. My mom, aunt and sister leaving was really emotional. I was sad, mostly because the life I am used to living has changed. Throughout my life there have been a lot of changes, but my family has always been there for me. Especially my mother, who has literally been there for me, even before I was born (literally for an extra nine months she’d had my back). I’ve never lived without my mother before. So though everyone leaving my dorm was emotional, I think her leaving had to be the hardest. I’m very thankful though. That I have such a supportive family, one who got up at 6:45 am and worked literally all day to make my room look great. And I’m thankful that I’m getting along great with my roommate (plus her family is really nice). Today marks the beginning (the official beginning since yesterday I didn’t do anything but unpack) of my college journey. I woke up at about 7:30, which is fairly normal (I get up around 8), and now I think I’m going to get ready to start my day.