Sex

This is not my typical blog post, but I just saw the picture below and it sparked my interest. I saw it and I really started thinking about society and how everything works. Women in society have been degraded for generations, from the beginning of time. For goodness gracious, Eve is blamed for taking the temptation and “making” Adam do the same, in the Bible! Women are used as sexual objects and prizes for men, and it’s unacceptable. What I’ve never seemed to understand is how men degraded “their” woman. It’s mind boggling. Women are gifts, and should be treated as such. When I first read this, I started thinking about how true it is. And how men are viewed as “players” when they are able to maintain relations (sexual and non-sexual) with multiple women at one time, but if a women does the same she’s labelled as a whore. By definition a whore is a prostitute, someone who is selling their body for sex and is able to be male and female (people often forget that part too). The whole idea that one are objects not only reflects the bigotry of the patriarchical society. I’m saying all of this to say, that it’s time for a change. The change has been stimulating for a long time, but it’s finally time for an enlightenment, a second revolution (the first gave women rights). This second revolution will even the wages for women (don’t even get me started on that) and allow us to receive the respect we so rightfully deserve. Another thing about respect is that it shouldn’t be an option. I’ve never viewed it as an option, because I will be respected. In turn, I will respect you, as a person and your opinion (and I will respectfully voice mine). Women especially have to have self-respect, due to the society present today. Men have been indirectly taught by their fathers and other males that females don’t deserve respect and are objects. Women learn that they have to respect themselves to not be taken advantage of (funny right? Women are taught to act differently so that men treat them the way they should be treated). Women are taught that virginity means everything and to males it means nothing, and that you should lose it as fast as possible. The views that society has painted are not only crazy but unrealistic. But back to the picture, I like the picture because it not only makes you think but you can really understand how realistic it is. Everyone knows that guys brag about sex, so much so many young ladies are scared to lose their virginity due to fear of humiliation or being “exposed”. It’s just crazy to me, and then people react to it and say “well she shouldn’t have been doing that”. Maybe, but he doesn’t have been doing that either. So next time someone says a sexist remark like that, call them out on it. Fight the (wo)man who is holding you down! Also, one thing I hate is dress codes. I’m talking about not allowing women to wear shorts or tank tops because it’s “distracting”. I had this big argument on the last week of junior year with my art class because they were sending girls out for wearing crop tops! I was outraged because it’s so sexist. First off it’s their body, and they should be allowed to dress it however they please. Also, I am seventeen years old, and if you are sexualizing me YOU ARE THE PROBLEM. That’s what people don’t get, at school you should feel safe and comfortable, not afraid of being sexualized. I blame the parents and society. You should have been taught to respect, but it’s never too late to learn. Treat others the way you want to be treated! Stay respectful! 

  

Society

Society has made up these roles and the way that individuals are supposed to act. They’ve made gender roles and stereotypes to prohibit growth. They’ve decided that boys aren’t to communicate, and allows males to do whatever they’d please, adding the simple phrase “boys will be boys”. But there is no “girls will be girls”, there’s only “girls just wanna have fun”. But when girls go and “have fun”, they are judged for it. Females are judged in so many unhealthy ways. My favorite Super Bowl commercial yesterday was Always , #likeagirl. It was a beautiful commercial about stereotypes and how we have the ability to change what “like a girl” means. As a feminist, I don’t believe in gender roles. At all I believe that in a relationship two individuals (or three if that’s your thing) are to flourish and love each other unconditionally. This means that they accept the other person (people) for who they are. Meaning that they can be as sensitive, as romantic, as loving, as caring as they like. You should not be limited by the roles that society has placed upon us. You are free to be you and express yourself how you please. Live your life the way you choose to live it. There is always the issue of females not supporting the feminist movement (which is crazy to me how do you not support a movement that is the reason why you are placed where you are in society, which is way higher than where your ancestors where?). We all need to come together and support each other, knowing that you’re treating someone else how you’d want to be treated. As long as you’re being non-violent and not harming yourself or others, there is nothing wrong with what you do. Try to communicate how you feel in the most affective way possible. It will all fall into place, just have faith and patience. It’s all going to be okay. Be you. Stay positive

Feminism

Good morning! I hope all of you are well. This morning I really want to touch upon a topic that’s very dear to me: feminism. A couple days ago I came across the greatest picture ever (it’s my lock screen now). It addresses the issue with stereotypes for feminism. There is a notion that all feminists hate men, are homosexual and masculine. I do believe that there are feminists who are extremists and hate men, some feminists are homosexual and some feminists are masculine. But that’s not all feminists. This is not even mentioning the fact that some men are feminists too (which I believe is too often forgotten). I think the issue comes from the discrepancy of what feminism is. Feminism is the want for social, political and economic equality among the sexes. No where in that definition am I, as a feminist, to hate men. As a heterosexual female, for me to say that I hate men is nonsense. I love both men and women, I just believe that we are not being treated equally, and we need to be. Below I have attached the link to a TED talk by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, who I love and she is featured in Flawless by BeyoncĂ©. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=hg3umXU_qWc

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