alone time

one of the things I love the most is my own space. I enjoy it just being me. Sometimes, especially if there are a lot of people, I will purposely not go do something simply just to have my own space. It’s not that I dislike being around other people, it’s because I’m learning to protect my energy. During the first kundalini class I went to with my mother, we did this exercise were we purposely discussed all of the things that were “going wrong” in our lives with God. One of the things I mentioned was “why can’t I make friends?”; majority of the friendships I’ve had have ended, and I only really have two friends, and I don’t always talk to one of them that often. And I got a response from God very quickly; He said “It’s because you need to protect your energy”. I am a ray of sunshine (these are words from others but I agree completely) and I am a healer. Because of this, I feel like people are drawn to my bubbly personality, my caring spirit and quirky ways. But I have to protect my energy. It’s currently been a period of adjustment learning to do that. I feel as if when I’m in a group who wants me to go along, I have to assert my independence. It’s stepping into my power and really taking control over my life and what I want to do. I feel that this is an important lesson for me. Because the work that I’m doing in this lifetime is extremely important so I’m learning to allow others opinions of me simply be their opinions. It’s a process. One thing I’ve been doing to help a lot is yoga and meditation. It’s really been helping. So as I sit in my room right now, alone I embrace this space. I wanted a single, but having to share a room is exercising this muscle of control over myself, my power and my energy. I completely get to choose who I do interact with and how much. So my answer to things has been no a lot lately and it’s liberating. I’m in the driver’s seat in my life. And I think I need this experience to love that role.


After a breakup it can be kind of challenging to understand how to start the healing process. Below are some tips to help you heal from an end to any  kind of relationship.

  • Be open to your emotions 

When relationships end you’re naturally sad. Allow yourself to really feel your emotions and get them out (crying is a great form of release). Sometimes it’s easy to think “I shouldn’t be crying over *insert name*.” But if you’re sad you should be. If you don’t, the emotions will get stuck which can lead to imbalance and illness. If you are at the point where you’ve gotten sick, I recommend Louis Hay’s You Can Heal Your Life book. It is a free pdf and towards the end of the book she explains the illness, the cause (emotionally) and a positive affirmation to repeat. You should repeat the affirmation multiple times per day, and when you do repeat it do it at least three times. 

  • Meditation

Meditating allows you to clear your mind and release old emotions. I spoke in my post on meditation and healing how I love to meditate outside because it just grounds me so well. Here’s the link to that post- Also taking a warm bath with salt water helps to ground you. You need to take care of your body, especially after the end of a relationship. It can be easy to stop taking care of yourself if you’re upset. You just have to remember that the relationship ended for a reason and you’re on the right path. 

  • Exercise

This is an important part of taking care of yourself. Good exercises are yoga (which calms you down) and walking (and I mean like long distances (like I walk about three miles). It’s going to keep you healthy. This is a very important time to take care of you! 
Everyone heals differently from different situations. Remember that judging yourself and suppressing your emotions only hurts you in the long run. So express how you feel and understand that you’re going through a healing process. In time all will be well. 

    Sleep, eat, exercise, repeat

    As the day is ending, is like to talk about health and the importance of exercising. In the spring, my family is doing this race together basically so we can all get in shape and start being more healthier together. Today we exercised as a family and it really was helpful for me. Not only is it important to have other people to be your cheerleaders but you have to be your own cheerleader. You have to believe in yourself and challenge yourself so that you can grow. For me, running this race is my challenge. It’s more than just a race for me, it represents me growing and developing while becoming healthier. Exercising and meditation really help you become more in tune with your body. It’s important to be balanced and remember that you’re important! Sleep, eat and exercise well.