caring

importance of honesty

“the truth will set you free”. I really believe this to be true. Honesty is always something that is necessary to have any type of relationship. I believe that if you are honest, it displays that you’re more serious about the relationship (even if it’s just a friendship). Being able to communicate openly and honestly is a really big deal, because it’s what brings people close. And I’m not saying that you have to tell everyone your business. I’m just saying that in order to maintain healthy relationships, honestly needs to be a core value. You deserve to have people in your life who love you, who care about you and who are honest with you. But you also need to make sure that you’re that way with others. You cannot always change the situation, but you can change how you act and how you react. Be honest with yourself and really feel your feelings. Express how you feel- it does make you vulnerable but it really brings people closer. The first relationship I was really able to put this into practice was with my roommate Kaitlyn. Instead of making small talk, we talked about deep issues. Our fears, our dreams, little details that make us who we are. It has allowed for us to communicate effectively and really become very close. I accept her for who she is and she accepts me for me. This would have probably happened, but us communicating openly and honestly from the beginning really allowed for a great friendship to form. So I’m telling you- just be honest. Be upfront. Be vulnerable. Because you will learn so much more about yourself when you put yourself out there. Trust in the process because whatever is meant to happen will happen! Just be brave!!

I absolutely love the picture below. I feel like in embodies what it means to love someone. Loving someone is about accepting them for who they are and wishing for their well being. In relationships, especially if you are very close with them, it is very normal to argue or be angry with the other person. The releasing of this anger is completely natural and allows you to remained balanced. In reality not expressing your anger can lead to unbalance and illness. So during these expressions of anger, you have to be careful of your words. Saying things or doing things you don’t mean are harmful to yourself and the relationship. But in reality, what I’m trying to say is when you’re mad it doesn’t mean you no longer care about them, it just simply means that your mad. So to look at this photo of this old couple who are obviously having issues, but to see that he is still taking care of her is precious. Just because you’re mad doesn’t mean you shouldn’t show how much you care, in reality it’s probably the time that your actions speak the loudest. When I mentioned earlier about watching what you say, it specifically is related to the second picture, which relates to my post about mercury being in retrograde (which is what is happening right now). The link to that post is here. Just make sure your words and matching what you mean. Sometimes it can be hard to do that, but your effort is more important than anything else!

Social Group

I really think friends are important. For support, someone to talk to, et cetera. Who you choose to associate with outside of work or school says something about your personality. Friends are supposed to click; friends have stuff in common that makes your communication (somewhat) successful. School friends (and work friends) are what I like to call associates. You’re close to them somewhat, but not close enough to call when it’s 12 am and your “whole world” has come crashing down (and no these are not fun experiences per say but they are important). Friends are the ones you call when stuff goes wrong, right and just to check up on. You need to be a friend to have a friend. People get placed into your life, and (somewhat) you get to chose their place. The issue starts when they get out of there place, or start being sneaky or lying or just talking too much. Both of my closest friends, where both somewhat given to me. Just by coincidence, I “knew”both of them but we happened to start talking and now I have two of the most fabulous best friends. They are both going to be shocked I’m blogging about them, but I’m extremely grateful for both of them. Friends support you, love you for you and help you. And you are to reciprocate that. I know I haven’t always been the best of a friend, but I’m working on it. Conversations need to happen on what will make each friendship (relationship) better. There should be openness for discussions. If you can’t open up to your “best” friend, you need to reevaluate your relationship. I know that everyone needs a friend, so be a friend.