Friendships

I am into defining relationships. Not because I necessarily believe in the whole notion that you “need to have a title to have a relationship” (because I don’t think that’s necessary). I like to define relationships because it allows for boundaries. You are able to control certain aspects of each relationship, such as what is acceptable and not acceptable. Remember that you can only control your actions and your responses to others actions. Once you have defined these along with the other person, things get less complicated. People have a tendency to make life more complicated than it needs to be. Communication is key and as long as you communicate successfully, that’s all you can do. You are allowing yourself to give part of you to them, while expecting them to do the same (which you have every right to think that way). If you are not getting out of the relationship that you want, leave. It’s always for the best.

Butterfly

Each day is a fresh start. You are able to begin the day by making decisions and end the day the same way. Everyone gets the same 24 hours. Make the most of each day. My father always tells me that after you subtract: sleep (8 hours), school or work (8 hours), eat (1 hour), miscellaneous calls (1 hour), social media (1 hour), and travel time (1 hour), you then have 4 hours to really develop professionally or personally. Appreciate each day. Things will always change and continue to get better, in the end everything will be better. Stay hopeful.

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New Beginnings

Last week was probably one of the most hectic weeks I’ve had in so long. After many tears, emotional breakdowns, phone calls, texts and loads of conversations, I decided that I am choosing to be happy. I was not happy and after I released my fear I was able to remove myself from the situation. I’m saying all of this to say that it is possible and okay to love yourself the most. No one else’s happiness should ever come before your own. Only you can choose to be happy. It’s not always an easy decision, though it seems like it would be. Your mind starts to be at constant battle between happiness and sadness. On the side of sadness is negativity, jealousy, ego, hate, revenge, et cetera; on the side of happiness is love, joy, positivity, life, health, and things like that. Often our minds can be pessimistic (for our society is pessimistic), but we have to “feed” the positive side. You need to think positively. You get what you want out of life, which is why it is necessary to call forth things such as truth, respect, love, health and happiness. Some relationships aren’t meant to be and you have to leave. You have to leave for you, so that you may become happy. Being brave can be scary for some while for others it comes natural. If you’re like me, you get nervous to make decisions. I advice you to release the fear, trusting in the divine order and process of life. It’s your new beginning, take this as a chance to recreate your morals, your views and everything about you that you don’t necessarily love. Have a fabulous Sunday and remember to be brave. Loving yourself the most is key in any relationship. Have a healthy relationship with yourself first and foremost. Ps. If you have any topic ideas just comment them!

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Control

I’m a control freak. I’ll admit it because I have been my whole life. I like people to do what’s right and in the past have been very closed-minded. Over time I’ve realized that being open-minded allows you to have so many more experiences that are positive.  You have to be willing to allow people to do as they please (and give them space). One of the downsides to caring is the over-thinking. One day I saw this tweet and it said “I can think myself into a bad mood”. This is very true. You end up thinking to much and trying to make something better (which may or may not work). You have to realize that you cannot control what anyone else is going to do or say to you. Take the high road. I know it’s hard and I end up arguing when I could have  just ignored the situation. I’m learning though (it’s my lesson) and I hope that I can give you insight so that you can learn from my mistakes. There’s always going to be someone you aren’t fond of and the feeling may very well be mutual. You just have to remember that arguing back doesn’t solve anything nor does deciding you won’t communicate with the person. You have to become calm, think it out and then react. There is a fine line between thinking and over-thinking. It’s hard to distinguish the two but eventually you learn when you are starting to feel differently. Don’t allow your emotions to be controlled by another individual. You are in control of yourself and your actions. Everyone makes mistakes, therefore taking pity on yourself is a waste of time. Allow yourself to learn from all experiences and remember that there is a divine order you may not be aware of. Release the need to control and you will start being happy. You have to allow happiness to enter your heart and your life. Sometimes it might seem scary but know that it’s a safe move. There are only two options, to move forward or backwards, and moving forward in happiness and health seems like it would be the better choice. Releasing doesn’t have to be difficult, it can be easy. Make it easy. Release control.

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