Remember that it’s important to take every moment and understand that you are here to do something more than what you’re aware of. You need to understand that it is all in divine order. Sometimes you might not understand why something is happening the way it is happening but it’s to make you stronger or teach you some sort of lesson. This will allow you to do better in your do-over. A do-over is when an event has already happened but something changes so that you have to ability to react more appropriately or learn the lesson. It’s important to take everything as a learning experience. Life isn’t always going to go according to your plan, but it’s truly because there is something bigger in play. Don’t be so hard on yourself. You deserve to be loved and treated correctly. You’re worth it. Remember that.
Now I’m no expert on relationships. But I think it’s important to share my opinion. Dating and being with someone is supposed to be more fun. Of course in every relationship you’ll have problems, but it’s important to use these experiences as chances to develop. You have to remember that every one ends up on your path for a reason and that there are things to learn. I think it’s important to realize that the expectations social media has set for dating are unrealistic. Because in truth we know nothing about these couples and their relationships, yet they are praised and said to be “#relationshipgoals”. You want to realize that it’s important to just be with someone who cares and treats you the way you deserve to be treated. Honestly you shouldn’t have to question their intentions at a certain point and be able to understand where you stand. It’s important to communicate with your significant other frequently, because communication truly makes or breaks a relationship. My other advice is to try. You have to figure out what works, what doesn’t and keep going from there. Remember all relationships are always changing. You have to adapt to your relationship and change accordingly. It’ll all be fine, trust me. I found the chart below on Twitter and I really think it shows what’s truly important in a relationship. Also remember that everything happens for a reason and take everything as a lesson and be ready for you do-over. All is well.
READ THIS AFTER LOOKING AT THE PICTURE. In June, I did this piece for my last art project. I created it to show the minimal differences between a “normal” woman and a Muslim woman. They are the same woman. “Think” at the bottom is meant to challenge the viewer to realize that there are really no differences in us as people. I was inspired by MTV’s Look Different movement. I feel like this is an appropriate time to post this, due to all of the Islamophobia going on after the ISIS attacks on Paris. Do not get me wrong, I do think it’s very sad this happened, but it is wrong to blame all Muslims. My interactions with Muslims has been limited just due to the community I live in, but one of my closest friends my freshman year is a Muslim. She taught me a lot about their values and what she believes in. It’s very similar to what I believe in. Now I’m not saying what she believes in goes for all Muslims, because in case you didn’t know there are two different types of Muslims, but what I’m saying is Muslims are good people. Think differently. Just because someone is different than you doesn’t mean they are bad.
As you grow older and wiser, it’s natural to start losing friends. This is especially common in high school, due to the developmental changes that one goes through. But this is also an important time for everyone to understand that there is a divine process, along with lessons you need to learn and that it will all be fine in the end. Remember that you are stronger than what you think, and that there is nothing on your path that you cannot handle. Take this time to release the old, embracing the new. Make sure that you’re getting enough sleep, eating enough and balancing yourself. To balance myself, I mediate twice a day, and I started working out more. It’s a healthy way to get rid of stress. In addition, make sure you that you believe in yourself. You can do it.
One thing that is extremely important, is the ability to stay dedicated. Whether that be to school, work, your relationships, your hobbies, it’s important to be dedicated. As September continues on, it’s an important to time to this as a refresher, as your recharge before winter comes. Stay dedicated to yourself. Out of all people you should be dedicated to it is yourself. You want to make sure that you are loving yourself the most. I repeat you want to make sure you are loving yourself the most! It is important because self-love is what allows you to love others (if you needed a reason to take care of yourself you have one now). You are single handily the most important person in your life. I understand that there are other people that matter to you, but if you don’t take care of yourself, your relationships become no existent. Also, make sure you communicate. Communication is important. Especially with feelings, because how you feel directly ties to your happiness, which is your first priority. You second priority is your body. Make sure you’re taking care of yourself, getting enough rest, drinking enough water, and eating enough. Also, keep up with your personal appearance. It is part of your daily grooming. Plus it adds to your self-esteem if you walk out the house and think that you look nice. Make sure that you’re taking care of your body, and loving yourself the most. Stay positive.