On December 24th, I turned 21 years old. 20 was a challenging year. There was change after change, I had the opportunity to join Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Inc. Beta Eta Chapter, and overall I grew as a woman. So there are a few things I want to share.
- Be your authentic self
This year, I embraced my authentic self. One of the ways I did this was by choosing to do what I wanted. The decisions I made were based on my happiness and desires. While I was conscious of others, I knew I needed to do what I needed to do for me. While it was difficult, it was well worth it. I also decided that I was going to be open with my bisexuality. By doing this, I feel like I can be my real self.
- Love unconditionally
First and foremost, it is important to love yourself unconditionally. That means accepting good and bad days, and picking yourself up. It also means loving others unconditionally. I was listening to a Red Table Talk with Jada Pinkett Smith and the subject was unconditional love and her mother mentioned if you love someone unconditionally you’re not constantly trying to change them. It really stuck with me- love people for themselves.
- Be okay with change
When I was younger my mother had me read the book Who Moved My Cheese. The book was centered around the fact that change is essential for survival. So ask yourself- are you ready to change to survive? The world is changing and we must change and grow with it.
- Take care of yourself
For me taking care of myself has included yoga and meditation. I also have started to incorporate more frequent reiki treatments and massages, as ways to heal my body and my energy. This year one of my resolutions includes trying hot yoga, aerial yoga and starting to exercise more.
And most importantly, be compassionate, loving and kind. That’s my mantra for year 21.