Obsessing over having a serious (possibly monogamous) relationship is not healthy. I see it all too often on social media, from both men and women. It’s a problem. And I’ll explain to you why. Being in a serious, healthy, loving relationship is a lot of work. Relationships take time, respect and love. Obsessing over why you might not have one is only hurting yourself. If you’re single, take this time to focus on you. Think about what you want for yourself, for your life and for your love life. Stop obsessing over others lives- social media doesn’t even show have the relationship. Find yourself. Love yourself. You are you, whether you’re in a relationship or not. Being involved in someone’s life is such a beautiful and precious thing. It needs to be treated as much. Social media has created these ideologies that if you’re single there is something wrong with you, or that you need to aspire to date someone who completes you. Yes the instagram couples might be cute. But there is so much more to them then you know. You should only be in competition with yourself, to be the best person you can be everyday. That does not mean you should compete with others (which is what you’re doing subconsciously). Take time to attract what you want in a relationship and grow as a person. You need to love yourself before love can find you. And be open to letting love find you. Go places. Meet people. Live your life. And then see what happens. You deserve happiness and love, and sitting on social media crying about it is only hurting you. Love is simple. People are sometimes complicated. There is so much more to love than people discuss on social media. Love is supporting someone when they don’t believe themselves. It’s being their biggest cheerleader. It’s completely accepting the people for who they are and loving them unconditionally because you’re in love with their spirit. It’s giving someone the space to grow and growing with them. Relationships take a lot of work. And when they’re with the right person it’s more than worth it. Let the right person enter your life. Take a risk and you might just surprise yourself. But the first step to finding love, is getting off your phone and starting to live your life.